How to Write Flirty Tinder Openers That Work Like Magic

By | August 24, 2017

You’re smart, you’re witty and you’re funny.

It should be pretty easy for you to impress women on Tinder.

The thing is, coming up with awesome Tinder openers on cue is hard, isn’t it?

It’s no surprise – even the best writers in the world get writer’s block.

That’s why I suggest copying these Tinder openers that work like magic. Because sometimes the very best way to get going is to copy what works. Plain and simple.

I want you to feel how easy it is to get lots of amazing responses from women on Tinder, so I’m sharing some of the best Tinder openers with you.

If you follow these simple scripts, you’ll be able create conversations full of flirty banter whenever you want.

One of the Best Tinder Openers 

To get started, here’s one of the greatest Tinder openers for getting lots of flirty responses with very little effort.

Many guys have used this message and got extraordinary results without really trying.

I think you will too.

Here’s the template:

Pretty simple, isn’t it?

The best things usually are.


This Tinder opener works amazingly well because it creates huge amounts of curiosity and intrigue. Girls on Tinder will get your message and think:

  • “What does he want my help with?”
  • “What’s important?”
  • “Is he being serious, or this a setup for a corny pickup line?”
  • “What does he think I’m an expert at?”

The message will play on her mind so she can’t help but respond to you. That’s why you’ll get lots of great responses like these:
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The great thing is that most women on Tinder are very nice and will be happy to help you out. 

Some will respond to you within a few seconds, some might take a week to reply. But however long it takes, most girls will reply.

And here’s something really cool about this opener: You never get a bad reply.

That means you can relax and have confidence because:

  1. Most women will eagerly reply to you, and…
  2. The messages they write will be friendly.

That’s a nice feeling to have!

What do you say after the Tinder Opener?

Okay, so you’ve used my Tinder opener and now you hold the attention of all these women. They’re all bursting to hear what you have to say.

That’s awesome.

But there’s a problem, isn’t there?…

What the hell are you supposed to ask them?!

Well my friend, that’s where the magic of this Tinder opener comes in.

You see, this Tinder opener doesn’t just get you replies. This Tinder opener has an entire script that will get you a girl’s number and a date as well.

Here’s how it works from start to finish:


Getting you a girl’s number and a date in three messages… this Tinder opener is pretty powerful, don’t you think?

It’s really easy and repeatable. You can use these same first messages over and over on almost any woman.

Let’s break it down.

After you get a reply to your opener, all you need to do is send this template follow-up message to her:


It looks a little long and busy at first, but as I said before, it’s really easy.

All you need to do is insert a few references to mention her profile where the red lines are. We insert these references because the more personalized you make a message the better it will work.

Here are all the references you need to add in to the second message template:

1. The Compliment: Ideally this should be a unique compliment that’s very specific to her.Tinder-routine-compliment-template-example

2. The “He’s talking about me!” Hint: Ideally, mention something so specific to her that she instantly realizes “He’s talking about me!” Perhaps her height or the kind of pet she has. If possible, merge this with the compliment so you’re doing both things at once.Tinder-routine-template-example-2

3. The Two Date Options: You describe two alternatives for her to choose from:

  1. A date that would be okay, but probably not ideal for a first date, and
  2. A date that you think she’d be interested in for a first date.

For example:

  • hiking vs wine bar. Here the wine bar option stands out because hiking is a little much for a first date.
  • classy restaurant vs relaxed rooftop bar. Women will pick the rooftop bar 8 times out of 10 because it’s more casual.

You want one of the options to clearly stand out as the winner. We do that because we want to make it as easy as possible for her to reply.

And along with each date option you also include a short reason why the suggestion is suited to her:


4. The “In case that matters” Reference: This is another opportunity to reference her profile and make it highly personal. A good choice here is to use some information from her profile about her job or where she went to college or where she’s lived previously.


5. The Intelligence/Decision Making Reference: Here you put in another reference from her profile, this time making it relate to her being intelligent or making good decisions.


Once you’ve sent that template message with all the references, you simply wait for her to reply. Pretty soon you’ll get a lot of messages like these:

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After she responds then you can get her number by using a technique I call Building the Bridge.

You build a bridge from where you are (Tinder) to where you both want to go (a first date), and link it together with her number.

This is done by saying something like:

 “What’s your number so we can organize that first date of ours?”


You’re basically saying:

“Here we are. Over there’s where we both want to go. This is the step we need to take to get there.”

Put it all together and this is what you get…

Here a few examples of how this opener (and the rest of the script) will turn out for you:

Example #1:


Example #2


Example #3


Easy peasy.

Pretty cool, huh?

As long as you get the profile references right, it usually works over and over.

I told you this Tinder opener was magic ;)


The Flirting Formula

Now that you’ve got some easy wins by copying my first message, let’s take the next step so you can create your own awesome Tinder openers whenever you want.

To save you from pain of starting off on a blank slate, you can use a template I call the Flirting Formula:

Commonality + Compliment + Challenge = Amazing Tinder Opener

(Hint: Just remember the 3C’s.)

This is a great “tool” that will allow you to send a flirty and playful first message to almost any woman on Tinder.

Here’s what’s involved.

  • Step 1. Search her Tinder profile pictures or bio text for a commonality
  • Step 2. Create a compliment related to that commonality.
  • Step 3. Create a playful challenge that’s related to the commonality and the compliment.

Make sense?

Let me give you an example to make sure.

Suppose that one of your hobbies is cycling and you match with a woman on Tinder who also likes cycling. Her bio says something like this:


And she also has a picture of herself posing on a bike during a casual ride – something like this:

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You both have a hobby in common. That’s great.

Now, you could start your Tinder conversation by saying “Hey, I like cycling too. Where do you ride?”

That’s a decent open-ended question to start off. Not bad. But the downside is that there’s no flirtatious chemistry being created and it feels a little forced.

A better Tinder opener here is to use the flirting formula – highlight your shared hobby and turn it into a playful challenge. Like this:


Can you see the 3C’s in action here?

Commonality = We both enjoy cycling

Compliment = Her great legs

Challenge = Try and keep up with me

This playful kind of teasing is great at creating chemistry.

No matter what woman you come across on Tinder you can almost always use the 3C’s to send an awesome opener.

Is your Tinder match a runner, like you? You could use the flirting formula in the same way as the cycling message to have the same effect:


If the woman has a picture of herself surfing, you could compliment her on the wave she caught and add a friendly challenge. The result will be a great start to the conversation, like this:


Or let’s say you match with a woman and notice from her profile that she’s well-educated and likes to play board games. How about using this for a Tinder Opener:

“[Her Name], I’m impressed that you have a Ph.D. in ___. I just hope that a high achiever like you can still lose gracefully when we play Scrabble… ;)”

Got the hang of it now?

The flirting formula will get your creative juices flowing so you can create your own awesome Tinder Openers. That will mean you can show off your unique personality whenever you want.

Ultimately, it’ll make more women like you and your personality from the very first message you send.


It’s great to be creative and come up with your own Tinder openers. And it’s great to inject your unique personality into everything you say and do on Tinder.

Doing that truly will give you the most success in the long-run.

But it can be hard to do, especially on cue.

So if you’ve been struggling to get responses on Tinder by “being yourself,” then one of the best things you can do is get some easy wins and program yourself for success by copying conversation starters that work.

Because once you get an intimate feel for what works and have some success, everything changes.

You’ll be able to create your own unique Tinder openers on cue that you know will work.

That’s often the best thing to do, because let me tell you: being yourself and winning feels a lot better than being yourself and losing.

You really do have the potential to meet amazing women on Tinder. They want to talk to you and they want to meet up with you.

Copy openers that are proven work, then use your winning experience to create your own style. If you do that you can have more dating success than you can imagine.


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  • Rob

    Hi Marcus,

    I recently discovered your blog and read through some articles. And ended up downloading the app. I also left you a review in exchange for the profile review. I wanted to ask you how long does it typically take for you to get back to people with profile review. As you can guess I’m already excited and impatient to start applying your tips :)

    • Hi Rob, I believe we’ve sent you an email. If you have any issues let me know.